WEEKLY COACHING TIP #146   

CONNECTING CONSCIOUSLY

I have a question for you: Where are you in your life right now, right on track?

1. Great goals you are working towards
2. Feeling contented with a sense of well being and fulfilment
3. Wishing/hoping some area of your life could improve, whether it be money, relationships, career?

Unless you are extremely content with you and your life right now, I would recommend you give the following some thought. 

Often when we are unhappy about something we tend to give it a lot of thought and ponder on it a lot, until it becomes a dominant thought.  It accompanies us and colours our life wherever we go and whatever we do.  In NLP we always say what you focus on grows.  For a long time I knew that and understood it intellectually, however, it took a lot longer to really know it!  What I mean is, that over the years of working with clients and on myself, I have merged and fused many different techniques according to the client’s needs and I now know it’s really about the feelings that come up when you are focusing on something. 

Why do people, when they are giving themselves a bad day, thinking about negative stuff that brings unwanted feelings into the body, do that?  They literally keep on giving themselves a really bad time of it.  It’s rather like someone putting their hand in a fire and saying “Oh that really hurts” and someone says to them then stop doing it, do something that doesn’t hurt, but they choose to keep doing it.  It’s an interesting thought isn’t it?  So why do we do it?

Often it’s because we don’t realise, we live so unconsciously in habitual patterns of behaviour, we just keep on doing ‘it’ even if it does hurt, because that’s what we’ve always done.  Not only that, but people around us and society tells us this is the way, this then reinforces the whole process and we become ‘stuck’.  Basically disconnected from who we really are.

To break this pattern we have to ‘train’ ourselves, just like going to the gym or training for a marathon.  Our mind is the most powerful and amazing tool we have, so you might as well get it to work for you! 

Today’s exercise is to help you become aware of your patterns of behaviour that may not be serving you.

1. Get into the habit (and really make this a habit), of scanning your body throughout the day.  Actually stop what you are doing and check very quickly from head to feet if you are feeling well. Do this at least 6 times throughout your day.

2. If you notice there any blockage i.e. tension anywhere, resistance, etc, put your focus on it and mentally tell yourself to ‘Relax and let go’.

3. If you find there is a thought that accompanies the blocked/tense feeling, allow it to come up and look it in the face, full on, ask “Am I willing to let that thought go?”

   • If the answer is yes, say out loud “I release this thought and feeling, for myself and the higher good of everyone”.  Then allow that blockage to dissolve. 

   • If the answer is no, ask yourself:

                                      i.      What needs to be expressed here and to whom?

                                      ii.      How could I release this for the highest good of everyone?

i.e. “Do I need to speak to someone about the issue?”

                                      iii.      What choices could I make right now that would help me feel better? (even if it’s just slightly better)”

4. If you manage to move yourself into a higher place where you feel better, great, if not, ask the following questions to help you get solution focused: 

                                      i.      What is working?

                                      ii.     Why is it working?

                                      iii.    What is not quite right yet?

                                      iv.    What would make it more right?  i.e. How do I want to feel?

                                      v.     What is the next action I can take to feel more of the way I want to feel?

Bonus Tip: It’s a good idea to have the above questions written on a card or paper somewhere to help you remind yourself of living consciously, of having that sense of well being that is your birth right throughout your day no matter what is happening.

The more you do this, the greater the habit will become and you shift up to feel better and better about life.

PS: To the people who replied to my questions on weight loss, I will be using this data for a Teleclass and programme at a later date and will inform you, many thanks for your input.

Until next week Onwards and Upwards and Keep Connected!

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