WEEKLY COACHING TIP #168                                                                                                                            

WHAT IF…    

In acting, we often use ‘what ifs’, when trying to work on a character, especially if the character is not one that you can easily relate to.  So for instance we might be playing a character that is plotting to kill someone.  In our personal psyche that is just too much for us and we find it difficult to go there.  So an example of a ‘what if’, in this case might be, ‘What if this person was going to kill your child. What would you do then, would it be easier to kill this person then?”  Suddenly there’s a shift, finding the right emotional response in ourselves can help us to imagine and tap into the part of ourselves that could do this terrible deed.  What in fact we’ve done, is just opened up the possibility of living truthfully in this character so you can believe s/he would do certain things. There has to be an empathy even with the vilest of characters in order for you to be to play it truthfully.

I was thinking about this today as I was on my way to the gym.  My thoughts were rambling around in my head with no real focus, just generally thinking about properties, as we are looking at the moment to move.  I found myself in a loop of thinking which wasn’t useful, creative or inspiring, in fact, it was a complete waste of time.  When I realised this, I actually asked myself “Well what if we don’t find the right property in the next few weeks/months or even years”.  The answer to this was “Fine, we actually really like living where we are right now anyway, so it wouldn’t be a great hardship.  Also it would take a lot of hassle out of our lives right now too.”  In an instant I was in to a different way of thinking and I felt not only relieved but also peaceful as I let go of it. 

‘What ifs’ can be very powerful, believe me.  So today, what if you applied it to your thinking, especially about everyday, uninteresting or stressful things and also really good feeling topics that make you smile and tingle.  Here’s a few to get you going, add your own, get creative.

• What if… I decided always to like myself and be kind to me?

• What if …I let go of competition and just did the best I could at any given time?

• What if …I smiled at every single person today?

• What if …I encouraged all my colleagues and friends in any way I could?

• What if …I chose to have an outstanding day today?

• What if …I gave appreciation for everything I have in my life?

• What if …I was in a hospice now, reviewing my life, what would I never have let bother me if I were to live it over?

• What if…I jumped in all of life’s puddles instead of pussy footing around them?

• What if…I remembered being judged is nothing to do with me, it’s to do with the ‘judger’?

• What if…I pretended I was a child again and hadn’t learned to put a curb on my imagination?

• WHAT IF YOU AND I JOINED OUR ENERGY TOGETHER AND SENT OUT AS MUCH LOVE AND PEACE FROM HEARTS TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD?

See how far you can extend this list, take it into every life area, relationships, work, money, health, habitat, spiritual, environment.

Onwards and upwards and what if you choose to laugh at lot this week?

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