182 - FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT... DIFFERENTLY

Have you ever been afraid to do something, believe something or even just hope for something in case you were disappointed?

This fear can drive us, often quite unconsciously. It can range from ‘I don’t think I’ll go to that party tonight because it’ll probably be boring’.

What’s really happening is the fear of being disappointed because, what if no one spoke to you or it just wasn‘t exciting. Then you’d leave feeling frustrated or thinking ‘what a waste of time’.

It can also be as insidious/ pervading as “I want a loving partner in my life but I’m not going to socialise very much or join a dating agency because … I may not find anyone interesting/attractive enough or I’m not interesting/attractive enough.”

What then happens is our belief systems just lowers the bar on our lives, expectations get lowered and worse still, become self-fulfilling!

Are you dissatisfied at the moment or know you avoid things because of fear of disappointment or fear generally? Is there some ‘strange’ or limiting relationship you have with something e.g. career, success, partner, etc?

The following technique I call FLOATING can help you get insight and change your feelings about situations.

Pick an area of your life where you’d like to have more of something and you continually find that it’s just not happening.

I am going to use the example of money here to illustrate.

Get yourself into a comfortable position and close your eyes if you prefer.
Begin to observe your breathing for 2 to 3 minutes.
In your mind’s eye, get a picture or sense of it (e.g. money). Don’t force this, just let whatever image or sense of it, and come up for you. Notice any feelings.

If the image and the feeling aren’t good, in other words, it makes you feel uncomfortable or it’s definitely something you want to change then carry on with this exercise.
Often just seeing the image can reveal volumes about ourselves and the object we are thinking about.

Change perspective and look at yourself looking at … money.

How do you look?
What’s your body language saying or what do you sense from this?
How are you feeling?
How do you treat money, what do you believe about it?
What’s money saying to you?

Imagine yourself floating high up above the images and just let both images dissolve.
From that position describe how you’d like to feel about it, what you really want to believe about it.

Really feel the energy, it should be fun or at least a positive feeling.

Float down back down into your perspective and hold the new image of how it’s changed.

Notice how your feeling has too because have lost the boundaries.
What new belief(s) can you begin to form here that would empower you in your life?

Finally imagine a situation in your life where you would have done your old behaviour and notice how you act now, how you think about it.
From here ask yourself these 2 questions:

What am I no longer willing to do? (regarding this area), i.e. feel guilty when I buy something new, or worry about having ‘enough’ for a rainy day.
What am I willing to do, i.e. have a sense of abundance, that money will always be there, feel energised by it, smile every time you spend money (even paying a bill).

This technique can be used on many different things. I sometimes use it in hypnosis to really re-inforce the new feelings and beliefs. Just remember you have to ‘condition’ it in to your system by repeating the new behaviour and getting into the new feelings every time you think of money. So you then feel a completely different energy.

Have a very fruitful week, without even a thought to being disappointed, just looking forward to opportunities where you can try your new feelings and behaviour!